Society has a way of attaching labels to people, based on what they have done. I personally try to stay away from doing this, as one word can never capture the complexity of a full human experience. Though labels generally frustrate me, they do sometimes carry an element of truth. What agitates me most is when a label is the complete opposite of what it is describing.
A person who robs a bank is called a thief.
A person who kills another person is called a murderer.
A person who has sex with children is called a paedophile.
A person who holds back truth is called a liar.
Yet a person who rents body parts is called a gentleman.
According to the Oxford Dictionary:
gentlemen (noun): a chivalrous, courteous, or honourable man
Despite this definition, “gentlemen” generally is reserved for strip club signs, restroom doors, and cheesy circus announcements.
But based on the real definition, a Gentlemen’s Club should be a place where men who love their families, friends and communities come to share ideas about how to make the world a better place.
Real gentlemen consider it an honour to serve those on the margins. Real gentlemen respect women, even if those women are not respecting themselves. Real gentlemen live their lives out in the open, their integrity going before them. Real gentlemen love women, not just their body parts. Real gentlemen do not lord their money or power over others, but leverage their influence to empower those around them.
I consider it an privilege to know men like this. In fact, there are many of them in my community.
To all you men who are trying to live lives of integrity and love, thank you for reminding us that gentlemen do, in fact, exist.